This is where I disclaim EVERYTHING. Neither of us are experts. We know that we don't know everything about parenting. We tend to have these conversations just to make sure we are on the same page in life. Self-guided premarital counseling, if you will.
Ammon is big on both parents being completely equal, and on making joint decisions. I agree, but I also think it is important for both parents to feel empowered to make decisions on their own and be supported. What we both agreed that it comes down to is having a firm parenting philosophy and guidelines established before we are in that situation.
To Ammon, this means that once we're pregnant, we'll pick a parenting philosophy to work within.
To me, this means we need to start researching now, because 9 months doesn't seem like enough time to make such a big decision. Also, hello hormones! I seriously question how good at making decisions I will be while pregnant. Unless that decision involves food, it could get dicey.
Oh, who are we kidding, I feel this way about big decisions most of the time. Food is delicious.
After explaining my position, Ammon grumbled about how researching parenting techniques is way less fun than becoming a parent. I gave him my patented glare out of the corner of my eyes. He reluctantly agreed.
So now we're THOSE people who read parenting books before they're parents. I saw that one of the polygamist families they documented on TLC did this, and I thought they were insane. Who the heck am I becoming???
So now, I just have to ask... are Ammon and I the only people in the world who have these types of conversations? Or are we less strange than we might assume?