Friday, February 1, 2013

A feel good post

Today we're going to talk about self love.  Now, don't start looking around anxiously, I'm not going to start talking about THOSE things.  This is a family-friendly blog!  I know of some amazing bloggers that do go there... but as of now, I'm not one of them.

Instead, we're talking about the self-talk that all of us engage in on a daily basis.  I started realizing that I could go for days at a time without having said a single nice thing to myself.  That was troublesome.  If I am not in love with myself, showing myself kind and loving compassion, then who will?  And if by chance someone does show it, how likely am I to believe it?  From that thought, the 31 days of self love challenge was born.  I challenged myself to say one unique thing to myself each day for 31 days straight, and post each and every last one of them on Instagram.

Sometimes, it was the only kind thing I said to myself in a day.  Other times, I was overflowing with love.  But regardless, I had to do it.  I knew that in doing so, I would start to reform my inner monologues.  I would stop speaking so negatively to myself, and start focusing more and more on the good things.  The successes.  And along the way, I told myself some really fantastic things that I would like to share with you today.

It has been really helpful to have these posted around our apartment.  You can't go anywhere without seeing one of my little post-its, many held on by a piece of tape.  They are my moment to moment reminders that love is more powerful than any other tool when it comes to behavior change.  They are my reminders that I am reaching for the next best version of myself, and that each day, I can do great things.

I would be remiss if I didn't take a minute to thank 2 brave women for joining me on this journey.  Nay and Andrea agreed to take the challenge with me, and I have to say that their posts kept me motivated, uplifted, and inspired the entire month.  You ladies are true champions, and I love you both dearly.

Now, I know some of you have been wondering if all of this madness would end on January 31.  Well, it isn't.  Nope.  I have another love challenge.  This month's love challenge is to make a concerted effort to give the special guys in our lives a little love note every day.  I'm not making the "no repeats" rule for this one, because how creative we can be isn't the point.  The point is that sometimes, we forget to speak the most love to those that we love the most.  Isn't it funny how that works?  I'm challenging us all to be intentional in the giving of love.

I have no designs on posting each and every one of these notes for you guys on twitter and instagram... they may end up being too personal for that.  But I will be posting some of them, and even if you don't do the whole month, I hope you will post one or two as well.  I'm going to be hash-tagging my posts with #dailylovenotes if you want to follow along.

Holy buckets, this post turned into a novel.  I'll leave you now, hoping you made it through to this point.  Have a fantastic weekend, my friends.  I hope you remember to speak lots of love.


  1. I love this idea, and will join in on daily love notes as much as possible! :-)

  2. I have loved seeing your post its on instagram. But I am SO loving the notes for the dudes. I'm going to start today.

  3. Love, love, love this idea, Kristen! :) First self-love, now love to others... you're just spreading your love all over the place. hehehe. OK, that was my one and only inappropriate comment of the day. haha.

    I may just have to join you on this challenge. :)

  4. I love this :) your 31 days posts on instagram were always such a good reminder to be better to myself this way. and I love days of love for February. :) you're so good that way.

  5. Smart girl! I remember reading once that we'd never be friends with someone who speak as negatively to us as we do in our own heads... Does that make sense?
    Great idea to do this - you rock!

  6. Yay for positive thinking and inspiration and love notes!
    such a cool idea. :)

  7. Ahh. Love the notes! You are seriously amazing- the notes can remind you of that, or just email me and I'll tell you over and over again. :)

  8. Hi lovey:) don't pass out from shock - i'm actually publicly commenting on your blog!!! I figured out how to get the phone to let me comment:):):)

    #31daysofselflove....changed me. I look forward to #dailylovenotes. Siunds like something I could use to embarrass the hubby! Score!!!

  9. This is where I get confused? am I following you on twitter? I thought I was...but but but!

    I'm so proud of you for finishing this challenge! Those are lovely and amazing qualities that you've found about yourself!

    And now to do the same for your loved one? Gah! so cute.

    1. I've rectified the twitter situation...It's cool!

  10. I am so excited to do the Feb. challenge, especially since showing my love to Mike is on my 25 before 25 list. I think I've been getting better about it in general, but this month will really be a good time to do it. :)

  11. This is awesome Kristen! And I love that you are giving Ammon a note every day :) I think it's easy to get caught up in ourselves and forget there's another part to this equation.

  12. Kristen that is such an awesome idea.... I feel like I may need to copy you.


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